16 December 2023
Brits resort to secrecy as they undergo non-surgical cosmetic treatments without their partners’ knowledge
Sophia*, a woman in her early 30s from north London, has been living a double life for the past eight years. Her clandestine activities involve getting non-surgical cosmetic treatments, particularly lip fillers, without her husband’s knowledge. She meticulously plans her appointments to avoid detection, using a separate bank account and scheduling them around her husband’s activities. Sophia is just one of many Brits who engage in what can be called “cosmetic infidelity,” keeping their beauty enhancements a secret from their partners. This article delves into the reasons behind this phenomenon and explores the ethical implications of hiding such treatments.
The Cost and Societal Pressure
Many individuals who keep their cosmetic treatments hidden cite financial reasons as a primary motivation. Non-surgical procedures such as Botox and fillers can be expensive, especially in the midst of a cost of living crisis. The NHS reports that prices range from £100 to £350, depending on the clinic and the area being treated. Additionally, societal pressure, particularly on women, to maintain a youthful and wrinkle-free appearance without any visible signs of intervention, further drives the need for secrecy. The occasional post-treatment bump or bruise is often blamed on innocent causes like children, pets, or household accidents.
The Rise of Non-Surgical Cosmetic Treatments
Non-surgical cosmetic treatments have become increasingly popular in the UK, with an estimated 900,000 Botox injections performed each year. Skin boosters, which provide hydration and moisture, are also gaining popularity. Influencers, including Love Island star Zara McDermott and former Made In Chelsea star Millie Mackintosh, have been open about their experiences with injectables, contributing to the growing acceptance of these procedures. However, despite this increasing openness, many individuals still face a stigma surrounding cosmetic enhancements, leading them to keep their treatments secret.
The Trust Dilemma
The question arises: is hiding cosmetic work a betrayal of trust? Relationship and counseling psychologist Dr. Rina Bajaj emphasizes the importance of honest communication in any relationship. While some couples may view cosmetic procedures as personal choices that do not require shared information, others may perceive the secrecy as a breach of trust. The motivations behind hiding these treatments should be examined, as fear of judgment or negative reactions from a partner could indicate underlying issues within the relationship. On the other hand, behavioral psychologist and relationship coach Jo Hemmings argues that keeping small cosmetic procedures secret is an omission rather than a lie, as individuals are making choices for themselves and not deceiving others.
Celebrities and Cosmetic Secrets
Even celebrities are not immune to the allure of cosmetic enhancements. Oscar-winner Olivia Colman admitted to initially hiding her Botox use from her husband, who eventually found it amusing. The pressure to maintain a flawless appearance while denying any intervention remains a complex issue for many. While some influencers and celebrities openly discuss their cosmetic work, others insist on attributing their youthful looks to natural methods such as drinking water and practicing mindfulness.
The Gender Divide
While it is more common for women to keep their cosmetic treatments hidden, men are not exempt from the allure of secrecy. Some male patients also tell white lies about their beauty habits, fearing that their partners might view them as vain or caricature-like with overly inflated lips or frozen foreheads. The desire to maintain a youthful appearance can lead men to resort to keeping their treatments under wraps, even from their partners and friends.
The Importance of Professionalism and Safety
As the demand for non-surgical cosmetic treatments grows, it is crucial for individuals to seek out qualified healthcare professionals. Maxillofacial surgeon and aesthetic doctor Euan Mackinnon stresses the importance of doing thorough research and avoiding cheap alternatives offered by unqualified practitioners. Patients who experience temporary bruising or other side effects often come up with creative excuses to explain them away. However, both Mackinnon and advanced aesthetic nurse practitioner Lee Garrett emphasize the need for patients to prioritize their safety and well-being.
Conclusion:
The world of cosmetic infidelity is a complex and multifaceted one. While some individuals choose to keep their non-surgical cosmetic treatments a secret from their partners, others find solace in open communication. The decision to hide or reveal these enhancements ultimately depends on the dynamics of each relationship and the underlying motivations behind the secrecy. As the popularity of non-surgical treatments continues to rise, society must navigate the fine line between embracing individual choices and maintaining trust in personal relationships.
